Dealing with Jealousy

Is jealousy ruining your relationship? Learn how to deal with a jealous partner and what you can do to change that.

1. Jealousy comes from insecurity. It is always about you, your feelings, and how you handle a situation.

-Jealousy is never about the other person. It is all about how secure you feel in yourself.
-If you know you deserve to be loved, you do not have to worry about jealousy.
-If you are healthy, you will never put up with a relationship that is distrusting.

2. Jealousy eats you up from the inside out. It is poison and destroys relationships.

-Do not ever excuse jealous behavior.
-Jealousy is toxic. There is never a good reason for jealousy.
-If you do not feel secure in a relationship, you need to address your fears and concerns. What are you really feeling? Usually it is not jealousy but rather a mixture a fear and sadness.

3. Participating in jealous interchanges takes two people.

-Never mistake jealousy for a compliment this is addictive behavior.
-“She’s jealous because she loves me” – No…that is not the reason she is jealous and also, she doesn’t really love you.
-Love and jealousy are two mutually exclusive entities; they have nothing to do with one another.

4. Love is open, the ego is quiet; there is peacefulness and trust in the relationship.

-Jealousy is closed, and the ego is screaming; you both feel shut down and self-protective.
-When there is love, there is trust; there is acceptance and ease in the relationship.
-Jealousy is the opposite of love. Love is about breaking down the walls of separation, jealousy is about putting them up.

5. If someone wants to cheat, there is nothing you can do to stop that, so stop trying. People are faithful because that is what they want to do!

-Jealousy changes you, the way you see yourself. You eventually lose your self-respect and self-esteem.
-Your jealousy can cause drama but it cannot succeed in changing another person.
-People change because they want to. If you have a partner who is behaving in a way that demeans and diminishes you, she will only change that behavior because she wants to, not because you want her to.

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