Letting go of the Past

I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past.
~Patrick Henry

What do you prefer? Dreaming of your future or reflecting back on your past? For many of us looking back on our past is a time to remember those cherished memories. Your first kiss, the smell of grandma's kitchen, or running through the yard catching fireflies. These are the memories that bring a smile to your face as you think back of days gone by.

Unfortunately, for some their memories bring them pain, grief or maybe even anger. When they reflect back it takes them to that moment and time when they were hurt and the emotions come flooding back as well. Their pain is real and often times it is a struggle for them to even function because they are living that moment over and over again in their mind. Anything can set it off, a sight a sound or even a smell.

By letting go of your past and setting it free, it will allow you to have the future that you deserve. If I told you I had one word that would allow you to experience that freedom what would you say? Would you like to know what it is? It is called forgiveness. Boy, that's a tough one isn't it?

Forgiveness is something we all have a problem doing because we often feel justified by our anger and resentment. Does it make you feel any better by harboring all that inside of yourself? Usually not, usually it makes you feel worse.

I have witnessed first hand what unforgiveness can do to a person. It is not pretty. You become a bitter person that lives in the past. You think about it, talk about it and dwell on it. You couldn't see the possibilities your future had for you if it slapped you upside the head because you are to busy feeling sorry for yourself to notice.

I have a friend that was sexual and physically abused by her step father for many, many years. The things she told me still haunts me to this day. We were visiting one afternoon and she looked at me and stated, "I am not a victim...I am a survivor!" I couldn't help but admire her strength. She had come to terms with what had happened to her. The childhood that was lost, she knew she could never get it back. She chose to forgive....that doesn't mean she was accepting of what had happened to her, it means she forgave to free herself from living a life of torment. That is why she was able to so boldly say, " I am a survivor!"

I encourage you to forgive. Forgive those that have hurt you and caused you pain. Choose to be a survivor not a victim and you will have the future that you have always dreamed of.

Kristi Cox is a team leader, coach and entrepreneur. Visit her at www.SplendidAromas.com to learn more about her Fun and Rewarding business. Let her help you build a successful home based business based on your strengths, goals and interests.

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