Setting Boundaries for your Own Good

Women are the caretakers of the world. Women are most often the ones that clean the house, do the laundry, take the kids to their activities, take care of the kids when they are sick; pay the bills, and so much more. Needless to say, we do it all!

Women are also the ones that worry about paying the bills on time each month. They also worry about having enough money to cover everything on a monthly basis and have money left over to save for a trip or a new house. Women do everything, but do they set boundaries?

What happens when we don’t set boundaries? We go into overload. We become stressed, unhappy, and angry. Nobody wants to be this way, but it can happen. Here are signs to look for and ways to either prevent them from happening or resolve them if they have already happened.

• Emotions

Our emotions will tell us that we need to set boundaries. We react in anger, and frustration. We act as victims; crying and complaining that others are “doing this or that to us”. Our emotions can get the best of us if we don’t take care of ourselves and slow down to “smell the roses”. It’s always important to take time for yourself. Go to the mall and do some shopping, go get a cup of coffee by yourself or with the girls, or go to a movie with your sister. Whatever you do, it will make you feel better about yourself and dealing with everything on your plate.

• Set Limits

How do you set limits? When you start setting limits, you can feel very selfish and it can be scary to say “no”. An easy way to incorporate boundaries is to begin to say “that doesn’t work for me, but here’s what might” and then go on to share what does feel more comfortable to you. Creating chore lists at home can help as well. If you don’t have children, you can ask your spouse to help you clean the house. If you do have children, you can and should have them help you clean the house and split it into sections. You have to remember that you are only one person and you can only do so much in one day.

• Expectations

When you set these boundaries, you will gain respect from others and you will have more respect for yourself. You won’t feel like a doormat at the front door of your life. Setting boundaries will give you more time to do the things you want to do. It will also mean less stress, you won’t feel overwhelmed, and you will feel better about yourself in general. At first you won’t know what to do with yourself, but soon you will figure it out and it will be an awesome feeling.

Sit down right now and see where you can set limits. Don’t be afraid to do this very important step. You will have a huge weight lifted from your shoulders. Your family will see an improvement in your attitude and you will feel more in control.

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Jane Morrison has been a leader in the field of personal and professional development for the past 20 years. She has practiced success principles with results in her own life and business, and has dedicated her life to teach others. Her clients achieve confidence and skills to live their dreams with prosperous outcomes. Check out www.smartsavvysuccess.com and www.womenconnectionsnetwork.com to find support to live your best life.

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