Show You Love Children in Non Verbal Ways

It is not enough for parents, step parents and extended family to feel a deep glow of love for the children in your circle of influence. You must convey that feeling into a message that is heard, felt and integrated by the child. Children need to be told both verbally and non-verbally how much they are valued for just being them.

As I interviewed children for my latest book Raise a Confident Child, I was struck by how many children thought their parent's love was tied to their performance, character or behavior. As Jeremy told me "When ever I score at soccer, my dad really loves me, when I don’t win, I’m not really sure."

As I teach in parenting classes across the country, many people ask me what they can do to have stronger families and more harmony at home. My answer is in the non-verbal clues we give our children.

Verbal communication is the language of information

Verbal communication is the language of information and much of that is spent in lecturing, teaching and correcting our children. No wonder they tune most of it out. Studies have shown we remember only 10—20% of what we hear.

Non-verbal communication is the language of relationships

The non verbal clues are remembered and believed 80-90% of the time. So even if you do tell your children you love them, do you show them how precious they are to you? Do your actions demonstrate that your love and acceptance is not conditional upon their school grades, soccer goals or manners at the table?

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Building Self Confidence With Encouragement Body language and non verbal communication can be learned, just like any life skill. If you would to learn better ways to communicate your love and acceptance, please go to www.UseEncouragingWords.com for a free eBook. Written by Judy H. Wright also known as Auntie Artichoke, who coaches families just like yours, you will find lots of useable information. You will be glad you did.

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