Valentine's Day Blues from your Unhappy Marriage

Everyone knows Valentine's Day is supposed to be a very happy time, but if you've been married 5 to 15 years or more it is often relegated to an excuse to stop fighting and be nice. I am not kidding; there are huge numbers of couples who use Valentine's Day to break the pattern of hot and cold war that has taken over their lives. They take a break from the criticism and finger pointing, the yelling and cold shoulders, the sarcastic comments and rolling eyes.


Everybody needs a break sometimes from the pressures and tensions of an unhappy marriage. Everyone wants to feel loved a little, just once in awhile. Is that what you signed up for when you got married? I certainly hope not. Yet, if you are like 90% of the people in this country that is exactly what you have: an unhappy marriage. OK, maybe not extreme, but I'm trying to make a point here. The point is you signed up to get married to your true love so that you can enjoy the blissful romance experienced during courting, for your whole life. Is that what you have? Probably not, and it isn't your fault.


They Don't Teach "Marriage" in High School Isn't it amazing that most of us will never really use much math in our daily life yet they pump it into our heads as if our life depended on it? On the other hand we don't know didily about relationships, happy marriages, or the other gender, and they hand us a diploma at graduation as if we are now prepared for life; it's ridiculous! The vast majority of us got married with completely false expectations and no idea of what to do, what to say or how to behave. The fortunate few who went to religious marriage classes mostly got lectured on the roles each must play to fulfill their obligation to marriage; as if marriage is this thing we have to pay homage to.


If you Suffer from an Unhappy Marriage, All you have to Do is Study Marriage;
Ignorance is Everything but Bliss


Here are some straightforward tips for removing Valentine's Day Blues from your unhappy marriage:

1. Think nice thoughts about your spouse all day
2. Tell your spouse, "I love you," at least three times and mean it
3. Do not offer any criticism, constructive or otherwise
4. Be more complimentary towards your spouse than you ever have been in your entire life
5. Have no expectations for sex or recognition
6. If you are a man and your wife wants to have sex with you, relieve the pressure before you do, so you can be attentive to her needs

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I wrote Lessons For A Happy Marriage: www.lessonsforahappymarriage.com to help people save their troubled marriage and end the marriage crisis in our country; it's about saving children. Let's stop divorce. The problems go beyond the failures of marriage counselors. My life's mission is to eradicate the need for divorce through focused education. If you're married, tell your soul mate, "I love you." Read more on my blog: lessonsforahappymarriage.com/relationship-advice-blog.html

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