What's a Dysfunctional Relationship? (Continued)

Acknowledging true feelings is the beginning of change. You cannot move to a place that works from a place that doesn't work unless you are willing to be brutally honest this present moment. Some of the ways to recognize that you are in a dysfunctional relationship:

1. You behave in ways that you don't like. You have more and more moments when you say" I don't like who I am when I am with this person. What am I doing? I don't even recognize myself."


2. You are keeping score. - emotional score. This comes from resentment, from never really getting the things you need. You are always waiting for the other person to do it first but when you wait for the other person, you always lose.


3. You care more about being right than feeling right. You are invested in being right to make your point and even when you get the other person to agree, you still feel bad.


4. You treat each other like adversaries, never friends. You never cut each other slack and are always quick to point out the other's mistake.


5. You feel guilty when you think of leaving - guilt is not a real feeling (it is really resentment). We feel guilt when we do things we do not want to do, and then when we think of stopping doing what we don't want to do,- we feel guilty.


6. You stay - not because you feel good, but because you are afraid to leave. You are CO_DEPENDENT.

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