Step-by-Step Advice on How to Build a Successful Adoption Plan

1. Set clear goals for yourself; determine exactly what you want. For
example: to adopt a child under five years old from Korea or a healthy
newborn in the United States. Start research on the type of adoption
professional who can help you accomplish this.
2. Determine the steps you have to take in order to reach your goal of
adopting. List obstacles you may have to overcome (financial limitations, age
etc.)
3. Identify the resources and expertise you will need to acquire to
overcome the obstacles between you and your goals. You can't seek out an
adoption professional unless you know what sort of adoption you want.
4. Search the Internet and follow through with referrals from other
adoptive parents. Select the most successful people in the areas in which you
need help with your adoption.
5. Join positive email lists, support groups and team up with others that
have the same goals and are supportive of adoption.
6. Once you have become involved, volunteer to monitor boards or chat
groups, and become actively involved in activity of these groups. You'll learn
much more about the adoption process and meet the kind of people that can
help you.
7. Research, study and apply what you learn to continually increase
your knowledge of the process of adoption. Listen to programs such as the
topics on www.LetsTalkAdoption.com. The very best professionals are going
to be interested in helping you if they feel you are completely dedicated to
becoming an adoptive parent and willing to take the steps needed. You may
show your dedication by following through in a timely fashion, developing a
plan and sticking to each step without giving up. There is nothing that will
attract people to you faster than by being enthusiastic about what you are
doing and making adoption your priority at this time in your life.
8. When you find a potential adoption professional, don't drive them
nuts by being a nuisance. Instead, ask for 15 minutes of their time by phone,
in person, or by email to ask questions you still have after doing your research.
I am always surprised when we receive emails from visitors to our site that ask
simple questions that are answered on the FAQs page
(http://www.lifetimeadoption.com/for_adoptive_families/family_faq.html) but
they just don't want to read it. Most professionals are very busy with their
practice whether it is facilitating, law, or preparing home studies. They are
bothered by people who take up a lot of their time asking questions when the
information is clearly available online. With the flood of emails and calls an
office receives, there is only so much time one can take to answer questions.
Potential adoptive parents should make sure these are important questions
that pertain to areas not covered in the literature or on the web site.
9. When you do meet with an adoptive professional, tell him or her
clearly that you are dedicated to building your family through adoption and
you have a few questions. Let them know you would very much appreciate a
little guidance and advice that would help you move closer to your goal. Ask
for a specific answer to a question or direction on where to go to get the
answer: a book, tape, or web site for example. Make sure to ask a specific
question that you haven't been able to have answered in research or that is
personal to your situation (i.e. you are stationed overseas and want to know
how to proceed, you have been married only one year and are not sure if the
adoption professional or organization has restrictions on length of marriage.)
10. Thank them by email or note for their time and guidance. Mention
that you hope you'll be able to work together.
11. Once you are working with a professional, keep in touch, but don't
nag them. Ask how often you should check in and with whom will you speak.
If you can check in by email and your professional has the time to respond by
email that might work for you. If not, an occasional phone call may work
better. Report back to your professional if any changes have occurred (i.e. you
have found a child through another source, or you are in need of a break from
the adoption because of an emergency, etc.)
12. Be willing to help others, perhaps as a reference for your adoption
professional, by speaking to other families. The more open you are to helping
the process along for yourself and others, the more others will be open to
helping you. Learn from others that have been through adoption and share
your knowledge with people interested in adoption. Educate the public on
how different adoption is today, and that it is very needed and appreciated by
all that are touched by adoption.

Whatever adoption you decide to pursue, be sure that you have done your
homework. You will find you have fewer surprises when you know what to
expect: the risks in some adoptions, time frames, and the cost variance in
each adoption. With planning, you will be on your way to a smoother adoption
and hopefully enjoyable journey.

Article Source: http://www.wahm-articles.com

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a speaker and award-winning author of two books, Adopting Online and Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide. Mardie is also the talk show host of Let's Talk Adoption.com with Mardie Caldwell. For more information email Mardie Caldwell

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